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October 01, 2001

I just remembered that time at the market. You snuck up behind me and jumped on my shopping cart, and rolled down aisle five. You looked behind you to smile back at me... crashed into a rack full of magazines. They asked us if we could leave. I can't remember what went wrong last September, though I'm sure you'd remind me if you had to. Our love was comfortable, and so broken in. I sleep with this new girl I'm still getting used to. My friends all approve, say "she's gonna be good for you". They throw me high fives. She says the Bible is all that she reads, and prefers that I not use profanity. Your mouth was so dirty. Life of the party and she swears that she's artsy, but you could distinguish Miles from Coltrane. Our love was comfortable, and so broken in. She's perfect, so flawless, or so they say. She thinks I can't see the smile that she's faking, and poses for pictures that aren't being taken. I loved you, gray sweatpants, no makeup, so perfect. Our love was comfortable, and so broken in. she's perfect, so flawless. I'm not impressed, I want you back.

I'm sorry, but that song just plain rules. I'm sure we've all had at least one person that we remember having some of the greatest times together, and although you knew deep down that that person was flawed it didn't really matter. You weren't really overlooking the flaws for the sake of the relationship so much as the flaws just ceased to be. At the risk of probably repeating an idea someone came up with hundreds of years ago, I think that's what being in love is. You fall in love with an entire person, not just something about them. And when you're there, everything about them is just right. I mean hell, the person could have a third arm and the negative sides to that (such as very expensive shirts) would never even occur to you.

This song also brings up another excellent point, perfect girls are perfect for nobody. This is primarily because all of us guys are far from perfect, and we really don't want to be outdone. Perfect girls tend to be trophy girlfriends. The kind it's nice to have a relationship with, but not to actually be in a relationship with. And I mean seriously, how old must it get saying, "keep away from her she's mine" to everyone that so much as glances in her general direction. That could only stay fun for a maximum of about a week :P

No, finding someone is a lot harder than trying with all your might to get with that perfect girl. You have to take it easy as best you can. The right girl will come around, and when she does, you'll know it, you'll be (as John Mayer says) comfortable, and you can't ask for anything more than that. So save the high blood-pressure, do what it is you like doing whenever you can. And don't let the ones from the past keep you up at night, worrying has never gotten anyone anywhere.

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